Shana Tova to all the good people

What do you consider a good person?

It seems like such a timely question going into the Jewish New Year.

That was the questions that was asked during the breakout rooms at Jeff Pulver’s weekly networking Zula this past Thursday, at least those rooms I had the honor of hosting…

and these where the responses in the order they were received:
Forward thinking
Philanthropic with their time (not just their money)
Straight forward
Self care

Self-honest about overcoming their own perceived fears

What do you think makes a good person?

Shanah Tova
Wishing you all a happy, healthy and prosperous New Year.


Dress for success Tips # 14 and 15

How’s your background?

Is it neat? Cluttered? Busy?

We are all working from home these days so we all understand if your background is not an typical office…BUT

# 14 Don’t Clash with your background

If your background is busy, keep your clothing neutral and simple.

In colors that flatter your skin tone (more on skin tone in later tips)

You want your audience focused on you and what you are saying, make yourself the focus of the screen.

# 15 Don’t Blend with your background

and the converse, for example, if your background is Jerusalem stone, don’t wear creams and pale yellows.

(if I had my druthers I wouldn’t put anyone in yellow, but that’s just me)

except this woman

Certain colors just wash you out and when you blend with your background you become a disembodied head, and that is just distracting and hard to listen to.

Which is kind of, counter productive.


Dress to Impress Tips # 12 and 13

So how do you nail your first impression on line?

How do you show up looking fabulous, feeling confident and rocking your first impression?

It’s about eliminating distractions so people can hear your message and get the value you have to offer

# 12 Stripes are evil

Thin horizontal stripes cause a moire effect, a buzzing on the moniter, which is extraordinarily distracting.

Vertical stripes will cut across your frame and make the limited amount of space you have in your frame look truncated

# 13 Mind your neckline

A crew neck will cut you off at the base of you neck.

A slight v-neck or the illusion of a v are not only more flattering but draw the eye down and in creating a cleaner leaner line.

A button down shirt should either have the top one or two buttons unbuttoned or but on an interesting tie, the knot will form that illusion of a v-neck.

If you must wear something close to the neck, add a scarf or a drop necklace which will add to the illusion!

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Dress to Impress Tips # 9, 10 and 11

The importance of a good first impression on the small screen

Framing is everything. Think of looking in the mirror. Don’t you want a more complete picture?

#9 Have your camera at eye level or even higher.

It makes your face look thinner, hides a double chin (for those of us that have them) and is a more flattering look.

Put your laptop on a pile of books if you have to.

Think of all those people taking selfies, holding their phones up, they know what they’re doing!

# 10 Center yourself on the frame.

Think of a good portrait.

Center yourself so that we can see at least a bit past your shoulders, no one wants to see just a head and neck, it’s disconcerting.

# 11 Lighting, lighting, lighting.

I can’t emphasize it enough, we want to see your face!

The ideal is if you have a window behind your computer, nothing flatters more that direct light.

If that is not possible put a light behind your computer, it doesn’t need to be fancy, a desk light will do the trick.

Your computer camera will automatically focus on the brightest spot in the room if you have a window behind you, your face will be in shadow, pull down the shade or move so that we can all see your beautiful face.

Drop me a line if you want the cheat sheet with all 30 tips!


Dress to Impress Tip # 8

Have some fun, think outside the box. If you keep it in the same color families or black and white you have a lot more leeway to play with pattern.

Of course, you need the gumption to wear it.

Now this can’t be done with “loud” colors, at least not for business, unless it’s yours ;-).

But you can dip you toe in, slowly at first and have some fun!

The easiest way to get started is think big pattern with small pattern, both in the same color way. Like this guy.

Wear it with aplomb it will make you look and feel more confident.

And confidence is the name of the game.

For help in how to make it so, drop me a line.


Dress to Impress Tip # 7

Simple rounded silhouettes will always pique curiosity, especially in neutral, natural colors.

These shapes and colors calm the mind and ignite the soul. Creating a need to know more.

Invoking nature and peace. There is a quiet confidence that comes with wearing these colors and shapes, that draws people in, and makes them want to get to know you, someone who is comfortable enough in their own skin to wear what feels comfortable even if it’s not strictly conventional.

You make it work, with quiet elegance, grace and of course style!

It comes as cross as confident, without the trying too hard.

What makes you feel that way?


Dress to Impress Tip # 6

What you wear under your clothes is as important, if not more so as what people see.

Good undergarments make your clothes lie better, enhance the line and fit of a pair of trousers or skirt and make everything sit wear it should.

It can make you feel powerful, like you know something no one else does.

It can remind you to stand up straighter and take pride in who you are and what you represent.

A friend of mine, a presentation coach, has her favorite pair of knickers that she wears when she wants to land a client.

It can be a source of amusement…”He always asked where was Sunday, I told they didn’t make Sunday, you know, because of God”….

No one but you know what’s under your clothes and how it makes you feel.

Athletes have been known to not only have but, actually lend their lucky underwear to fellow players

Underwear fashions come and go, but comfort and fit are key to a nice clean line and a finished, polished look.


Dress to Impress Tip # 5

So you’re tired of black and white, and you want (dare I say need) to wear color.

The easiest, way to do so and still look professional and elegant is to go monochromatic. It can be shades of cream or camel, or you can go with shades of green or blue or mustard or, or, or …the possibilities are endless.

The question remains how do you know if all these shades work together? That you aren’t mixing warm and cool shades, that just look off when next to each other?

My favorite tip is go to a paint store and find a paint chip in your favorite color and take that shopping with you! Paint chips have 4. 5, 6 or even 7 shades of the same color, with the same degree of warmth just lighter or darker along that same scale.

Pick 3 of those colors, and you’re dressed! You can wear the medium shade on top, the lighter shade on bottom and the darkest as a jacket, or tie, or scarf. Or wear a suit in the and of the shades and go a shade lighter or darker with the shirt. The possibilities are endless. And the result is to die for.

Not sure, drop me a line.


Dress to Impress Tip # 4

So many of our memories are based on smell.

The smell of freshly cut grass.

The smell in the city after it rains.

The smell of home.

Our sense of smell will influence how we make decisions, and how we feel.

Babies can smell their mother.

There is even a realtors trick of baking chocolate chip cookies during an open house to give the place of feeling of home.

There is also the negative, the smell of fear…..

“Scent is our most primitive sense, the closest to the emotional brain.” Isabelle Ramsey Blackstone

Creating memories and feelings based on our sense of smell creates something lasting and tangible.

So find a signature scent, that makes you happy, that defines you, that makes you feel stronger, self assured that make you memorable..

It needn’t (and shouldn’t) be overpowering or too strong, just subtle enough to be present and create a lasting memory.

Scent is often used in branding, even in selling new and used cars!

So how are you going to make your personal scent, your brand?


Dress to Impress Tip # 3

Okay, so this one isn’t about clothing.

This is about, you guessed it, what you have on top of your head!

Be it hair, a hat, a wig, a beautiful scarf or nothing at all.
It must be neat, clean and orderly.

You can have fun colors in your hair, blues and greens (if your like me) purple, red, orange or rainbow ….as long as it’s brushed and clean and out of your face!

Same for any head covering, if people can’t see your eyes, they won’t trust you!

Especially because people generally notice your eyes first, so make it easy for them!